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Intimidation:the life & level limiter

One of Satan’s favourite weapons against the masculine soul is intimidation. The sole purpose of intimidation is found within itself – timid.

To overwhelm the masculine soul with a sense of timidity. Of perceiving and feeling the difference within you with regard to who or what you are facing. To stir up feelings of inferiority and inadequacy.

One man who the Father chose to raise, train and discipline was David and he had many opportunities to be intimidated but only once was he defeated by it.

Have you ever had the experience of standing in a crowd as two captains pick their teams. Your hope and prayer is that you’ll be pick first and you won’t be picked last. This was my first major time with the spirit of intimidation.

It’s important to remember that intimidation is a spirit. After all, we do not wrestle against flesh and blood. Intimidation will come through flesh and blood but its real  source is from beyond.

David had a moment when he realised that there’d been a ‘pick a king moment’ and he was not even considered for the short list. A list compiled by his own Father.

How’s that for major league intimidation! Not even your father thinks you have what it takes.

In fairness to Samuel, this was his first time at interviewing for a King. As Jesse brought all his sons, minus David, Samuel said “Surely the Lord’s anointed stands before me?” Father answers his question – Nope. Not him. Not Eliab!

What happened next I am sure put Samuel in a sweat. He watches as all of Jesse’s other sons are paraded and rejected by God. Whoops!

Samuel asks an obvious question – is this all your sons? Jesse’s reply is insightful. There is still the youngest!

The word for youngest is  haqqaton, describing not only age but rank.  David is the little brother.  The last one in the line but according to the mind of the Father, the first and only one on His list to fill the vacancy

I was never chosen first or last, when the captains where making up their minds but I do know what the intimidation of your dad not thinking you have what it takes, feels like.

It casts a long shadow!

From this moment David’s life begins to change and he faces many more intimidating times. When Satan knows that the Father has chosen another son to raise, train and discipline and take their predetermined place within His epic story.

He will try to intimidate the life and potential out of that son, all the way through the journey.

As stated, David had many but his most well-known one was facing the champion of Gath Goliath. Just before David enters the valley and they get into it, Satan attempts three times to intimidate Father’s chosen masculine soul of the moment.

Satan often tries to use those closest to you and he sifts David’s oldest brother Eilab –

“When Eliab, David’s oldest brother, heard him speaking with the men, he burned with anger at him and asked, “Why have you come down here? And with whom did you leave those few sheep in the wilderness? I know how conceited you are and how wicked your heart is; you came down only to watch the battle.”” 1 Samuel 17:28 NIV

Two questions and two statements designed to intimidate David.

I love David’s response: “Now what have I done!” And he turned his back on his brother!    David turned his back on both his brother’s opinion.

Coincidentally, what had Eliab been doing for 40 days but watching Goliath and doing nothing! Huh!
Attempt No 2. Saul wants David to look like him from a distance!

Years ago when playing football there were a few lads who had all the gear, even the latest Georgie Best boots with bright red linings. Some of these lads were really good footballs, others were empty shirts!

David was a warrior, he’d been waging war against the bear and the lion, protecting the sheep in his care!

He wasn’t a lookalike he was the real deal!

“David fastened on his sword over the tunic and tried walking around, because he was not used to them. “I cannot go in these,” he said to Saul, “because I am not used to them.” So he took them off.” 1 Samuel 17:39 NIV

This is not me and so he took them off!

Another great and prompt response to the spirit of intimidation.

Attempt No 3 Water!

“Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd’s bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the Philistine.”
1 Samuel 17:40 NIV

There was a moment, just a moment when David would have caught sight of himself in the reflection of the water of the stream.

He could have paused and thought about who he was and what he was facing. He didn’t. He broke any false reflection of himself, any fear based fiery dart thought by thrusting his hands through and onto his stock choice of weapon – a stone!
It was a moment the enemy could have used to put him in pause.

To get him look at who he was, where he’d come from and what people thought of him.

David’s hand breaks through the water and demolish any attempt at passing on an old reflection.

David was not a captive to his past and its opinions by endless reflection.David was compelled by who his Father was and where he was taking him.

David’s focus was not on who was waiting for him in the valley:Goliath.But who was waiting upon him in the valley His God!

David’s hand broke up the reflection and released the pebble and he knew his God would do the rest.
David knew this public gigantic moment was very similar in kind to his private moments of killing bears and lions.

We need to have private victories that precede and prepare us for public ones!

Intimidation has to be dealt with otherwise our masculine soul stays on the side watching the action and forfeiting the benefits of victory. See 1 Sam 17:25.


Crossing the line!

It was the second week in theological college and my first proper lecture when, right in the middle of the presentation, I had a tangible experience of intimidation, which came as a series of thoughts.  “I do not understand what the lecturer is saying.” Well say so and ask him to explain it again.”  “No way, everyone in the room will look at me like I’m stupid and be annoyed that I’ve stopped the lecture.”  For what seemed like a life time I battled the contrary thoughts and emotions within me and then my hand just seem to go up in the air.  Clive, the lecture said yes Andy.  I made a joke about speaking in an unknown tongue and his Methodism, and he laughed and covered the material in a way that was more accessible.
When I entered the student coffee-room I expected some funny looks or some sarcastic comments.  Instead, two fellow students, one older and one younger,  came up and thanked me for sticking my hand up because they were also experiencing confused dot-com!  This learning and intimidation experience was not my first, that happened when I was twelve, and no I did not put up my hand! Now as a thirty year old man it was time to ‘leave childish ways behind,’ and so I put my hand up and removed the ‘line in the sand’ that intimidation had drawn.
Although not all our experiences of being intimidated will have a spiritual cause behind the affect; some will be rooted in the emotions around insecurity, which is the lack of inner self belief.  Nevertheless, we need to be aware that intimidation is a spirit and when this spirit is the cause behind the affect we are experiencing, we need to use the right weapons, and they’re grace and our authority as believers, to bind and loose!
Question: what was God giving to believers in 1 Pet 5:5-12?
The simple answer is grace, which raises another question.  Those being addressed are believers, haven’t they already received grace, to have been defined as believers?  So those who have been ‘graced,’ are being graced again by God!  What’s going on?
Grace has two equal sides to it: one is unmerited love, the other is unrivalled power.
The first puts us in a right state and condition before the  Father, without any reference to our merits or performances, anchored only in the work of Christ.  The second kicks in when we lack the ability, or are faced with spiritual adversaries, like intimidation.
Father, gives His sons ‘can do power,’ when they humbly admit, they’re in a ‘can’t do situation. See 2 Cor 12:9&10
The key to this ‘can do power’ of grace is humility –
“God opposes the proud but gives grace [unrivalled power] to the humble. 1 Pet 5:5.
The spirit of intimidation is after something, which it can only get, if it deceives us into a mindset, found embedded in the word intimidation – timid.
Intimidation seeks to convince us that we are not up to the task, that we are small in comparison too, and this should make us afraid to move forward and act.  What intimidation fears, is that we will realise this is a Father given moment, humbly our selves, receive can do power and take the ground the spirit is seeking to hold on to.
Like all bullies, intimidation draws a line in the sand and then declares what will happen if you cross it.  Like David we need to run towards the line, cross it, sling our stone and let Father do the rest.
It’s always about territory.
As in any war, the ultimate aim is to win hearts and minds, and Our Father and the father of lies, are working to this same objective.   I once read some words many years ago that have served me well –
“You cannot take ground off the enemy, if he’s got ground in you!”
The thought around the word timidity in 2 Timothy 1:7  is that of cowardice, of being in servitude or bondage to fear.
Like rabbits in the headlights, some are struck by fear and just sit there and take it, afraid of what might happen, what people might think and how they will react.
People approval, fear of failure, confrontation or rejection are classic reasons why people ‘stay in the lights, and the enemy exploits these ‘soul ties!’
The Father says that He has given every one of His born again sons the spirit of power, love and a sound mind.
A mind that can still think and reason, even under immense pressure.
The power that formed and placed stars, and raised Jesus from the dead, is with you, within you and for you!   This power can do exceedingly abundantly above all you can imagine or ask.  See Eph 3:19-20
This blog is current for me, I am taking on the spirit of intimidation, and I am not finding it easy at times.  Recently, the Holy Spirit showed me something from the account of David and Goliath, which came as a clear statement –
“Battle lines and shouting is not engagement, run into the valley!” 
 ” Early in the morning David left the flock in the care of a shepherd, loaded up and set out, as Jesse had directed. He reached the camp as the army was going out to its battle positions, shouting the war cry.
God’s solution, David; arrived as his brothers were entering day 40 of lining up and shouting!  As I hovered over this verse, Father spoke and said this is not engagement, run into the valley and I will sort him and it out!    
They were like boys in the playground, standing either side of an imaginary line, shouting and declaring what will happen if you crossed the line and Israel was hoping that no one would!
In fact there was such reluctance in the Israeli camp that king Saul had to offer a threefold incentive – great wealth, his daughter in marriage and the father and the family of the victory would live tax-free!
At some point we have to re-new our minds and admit we are just shouting and posing but not engaging.  Then we need to re-position ourselves and with confidence in the can do power of grace, do what David did – run towards the hairy man mountain!  
What I absolutely love (well most of the time, love) about my Father is that he will not test me beyond my ability to endure. See 1 Cor 10:13 and that He arranges prequels on the way to the main event, as He did with David.  
Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. 1 Sam 17:36
David had already experience, in private, the can do power of God and so he puts Goliath on the ‘already been sorted list.’ Now that’s confidence! 
Lions intimidate through their roar, bears by standing on their back feet.  Goliath was a combination of both and David had been there, done that, and got the tee-shirt! 
Why should we take on the spirit of intimidation?
1.  Love won’t allow us to live at this postcode.  Perfect loved drives out fear.  I Jn 4:18
2.  We forfeit our potential and deprive others of its benefits. Jn 17:19
3.  To leave a stronger generational legacy. Cf Judges 1:19 & 4:13 (don’t leave the kids iron chariots)
4.  The sense of deep satisfaction that will flood your masculine heart & soul.
Mark it down: When you are in a situation that creates fear, but you face it head on, you will feel a rush of satisfaction in knowing you displayed courage.1
Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities…because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.”  Winston Churchill
1 Ortberg pg 126 if you want to walk on water you’ve got to get out of the boat