Invitations trigger emotions and require a decision. The Father loves to give invites but they usually come at what we might think are strange times. This pod will shed some light on this Inviting Father!
Borders are a vital dynamic to grasp because the Father who designed and created the masculine heart and soul, will consistently bring us men, His sons, to many border times and crossing over opportunities.
Met a bloke this week that wanted to chat and show all of us who were having a coffee, what he had in his carrier bag, and so, out came a King Edwards cigar box. I thought the box looked cool and then he opened it, and inside were a stack of coins, from various countries. He spoke passionately about his coins and that he was going to the ‘see the guy in the shop’ who will ‘flap like a chicken’, when he sees these! For two or three minutes he held the table with his passionate conversation and then he was off.
This encounter and experience got me thinking about Ker-Ching, the noise coins make when deposited and a popular cultural phrase men use. What surfaced were three questions –
- Is there such a thing as Masculine Ker-Ching?
- If yes, what it’s currency?
- Where is it deposited?
Observe any group of men and it is obvious that Masculine Ker–Ching exists, their interactions and reactions, are just like financial transactions – stuff is being withdraw and deposited. Staying with the comparison of financial transactions, what is the currency being deposited and withdraw when we men get together?
I believe the currency is Respect. This is the coinage we men deal in and it comes in various denominations!
- Humour (inc Sarcasm)
- Projects (work/home)
- Successes (tasks taken on)
- Knowledge (sport, DIY, products)
All of the above are observable when males gather and what we are looking for but would never consider asking for; is respect. Going to stick my neck out here – respect is on par with sex when it comes to the masculine heart and soul. Men I believe, desire both of these in equal measure!
Respect is a close cousin of honour and honour is about your gifts and abilities being recognised, appreciated and celebrated. Recognition, Appreciation & Celebration, is the currency denominations of masculine ker-ching.
The masculine heart and soul that is not receiving the above is dying not thriving inside and will then go to one of two places: Striving or Sulking! Both are hard to be around and live with.
P.S there will be a growing amount of anger too, usually just under the surface.
The bloke with the cigar box had some rare coins that potentially were valuable, hence his visit to the dealers shop. Some of the most valuable ker-ching we men can receive are like these rare coins – not often seen!
- When was the last time your gifts, abilities & actions, as a man, were recognised & appreciated?
- When did you last release this coinage to the men in and around your world?
When I first glanced in the ‘cigar man’s box’ something immediately stuck out because it was a completely different in colour and size to the rest. My eyes and hands were drawn to this particular coin! Recognising, appreciating & celebrating another man, is just like that coin: it will stand out and draw people.
Fathers, sons, brothers, grandfathers, co-workers, bosses, all need Masculine Ker-Ching!
Will we invest in these men?
Genuinely and intentionally release some rare coins?
From experience, this challenge might seem and feel a little weird and it is, because like a rare coin, it’s not an everyday thing. The words that pass between us men are like everyday coins, so when recognition, appreciation and celebration coins show up, they stand out!
One of the first times I ‘Ker-chinged’ another bloke, I was nervous and his knee started to rise but afterwards he was genuinely grateful.
The masculine heart and soul like a bank account needs regular deposits, if it’s going to avoid being overdrawn. We can become ‘Real Investment Bankers,’ investing in the generations of men in and around our world!
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Prov 16:24
So let us be intentional and invest. Ker-Ching!
Michael Paling has been on and recorded many great journeys.
Stephen Tompkinson, is giving us amazing aerial views of great landscapes and places as he balloons across continents.
- Great journeys are vital to the masculine soul, for it was created to explore!
- The glossary of the masculine soul includes words like: adventure, discovery, challenge, risk.
- Great journeys offer us all of these and more.
Great journeys are not just geographical. Life offers us the opportunity to discover, go beyond the norm and the status quo
- Think about childhood to adolescence. Remember that?
- From adolescence to manhood.
- From single to married
Great journeys, undertaken, mean the traveller will not be the same when they get back. This in part, is why we long to go there as men. One of greatest ‘toxins’ for the masculine soul is boredom.
“Boredom is the plight of a modern man when he lacks distraction and has no absorbing passion or pastime.” Blaise Pascal
When Joshua had grown old, the Lord said to him, “You are now very old, and there are still very large areas of land to be taken over. (Joshua 13:1 NIV)
- Joshua was very old but God is not talking retirement, slippers and shed.
- His agenda is still to go beyond, to move from the familiar to the unknown!
- Joshua’s travelling and journeying days were not over!
When we stop journeying we become settlers and we silence and sideline the urge to move out and into!
There is a great journey that I believe the Father desire we all take as men and that journey is from Memory to Imagination. Memory and imagination are powerful dynamics that have the ability to impact our masculine hearts and souls, leaving their mark and some impacts are meteoric!
- Memory is all past, previous or present focused!
- Imagination is possible and future focused!
- Memory is limited, imagination unlimited!
One of the saddest dynamics I have experienced many times over in conversations with men, is they focus on what they have done, seen and experienced. Very little about what they are looking forward to, imagining or planning for!
For some men, imagining is not the problem; it’s the power of memory that keeps them within the boundary line and accepting the status quo, instead of crossing over into new territory.
See Gideon Judges chapter 6 esp v13.
One thing I have realised about following the Father of the Bible is this:
- He never leaves us where He finds us.
- He always takes His sons from the ordinary to the extra-ordinary
Speaking as an achiever, Lord and mentor Jesus said to His twelve disciples and friends, this very truth – But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”
(Acts 1:8 NIV)
The Holy Spirit will lead these men from Jerusalem to the very ends of the earth; this is not just about the spirit of mission but of adventure and risk. The Holy Spirit would be compelling these men to keep journeying, He would be pioneering opportunities that would be life transforming, for them and others!
Being male and a follower of Jesus is not about slippers and settling but about journeying and transformation! Travelling and greatness are intrinsically connected.
Final thoughts –
- A soul can exist in memory but it can only thrive through imagination!
- Have you taken this great journey yet as a man?
- Are you still behind the line and in the memory?
- Women burnt their bras do we need to burn our slippers?
The greatest journey lies ahead: from time into eternity and what we have released in time will echo throughout eternity.