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Masculinity P3

The thought underpinning these blogs about the masculine heart and soul is this –

God did not create humans.

This is a label attached by man to categorise and generalise.   God intentionally created and uniquely designed a masculine and feminine heart and soul.

One of the biggest problems and frustrations in men and women, regarding masculinity, is how we both perceive what is a man.    After years of banging my head against the wall, I have changed my starting point, my perception of masculinity.  This little adjustment has made a massive impact.

I have simply started with how men are by design and not how they should be according to the previous generations, popular culture or the expectations of mums, wives & girlfriends.

It’s not that I am closed to all these voices, rather I want to begin in the beginning and that’s Genesis and use what the father reveals there as a diagnostic tool which I will use to keep the good and ditch the crap!

In my last post, I talked about not sawing against the grain, of not working against oneself, of not getting the most out of your efforts which leads to compromise in productivity.   To not begin at the beginning, may well lead to me sawing against my father given grain.

Sometimes the quickest way to illumination is to use the tool called outline.  So, here’s my outline of the ‘grain of masculinity,’ that father created in the beginning.

  1. Adam, created from the dust of the wilderness, not the soil of Eden. Gen 2:7
  2. Father breathed into Adam, then he became a living being; lit: a speaking spirit!
  3. He then blessed, empowered & equipped his man. Gen 1:28
  4. He mandates his man – BE – fruitful, increase, fill, subdue, rule 1:28
  5. He decisively puts Adam in what He’d already planted – Eden.
  6. Commanded him to work & keep it!

The MH&S was empowered and equipped with authority and power, given a clear place to exercise these gifts, the earth and then the core priorities, that will call out to all he has been pre-loaded with –

  • Barrenness will ask for fruit.
  • What’s empty will need to be filed.
  • Multiplication will be a default setting.

So to achieve and increase is a design requirement, not selfish ambition.

He will be called on to fight and use his God-given fierceness to subdue anything that will come against the beauty God has put him in and commanded him to work and keep. Before all these commands, The Father, blessed or empower the MH&S & the FH&S with everything they’ll need for all He’s asked them to do.

The first MH&S was empowered and then mandated which is so important to grasped.  Another way to put it would be to say, that who he [Adam] be had already been given everything he need to do all he’d been designed and purposed to do! He had the capacity to obey and fulfil the command!

Unlike some earthly fathers, our heavenly Father always includes the batteries [power] to go with the gifts He gives us.

Fast forward and the father of the heavenly lights, who does not change, who gives every good and perfect gift (see James 1!7) provides us with  these verses.  These  remind us that we are thoroughly equipped as men to empower the love ones within our ‘Eden!’

  • Blessed with every spiritual blessing Eph 1:3
  • Abundant grace at all times & in all places 2 Cor 9:8
  • Grace [love AND power] that’s all sufficient, esp when we lack ability 2 Cor 12:9
  • God-given & resurrection strength, might and power.  Eph 6:1
  • Exceeding power that will go beyond all we can imagine or ask! Eph 3:20
  • Power to desire to do & accomplish glorious will.  Phil 2:13 Weymouth translation
  • Can do strength and power Phil 4:13
  • Father’s faithful, can-do power.  1 Thess 5:24
  • The Covenant promise to equip us with good, so we can do his will. Hebs 13:21

These verses are spiritual nutrition, an all you can eat buffet for the MH&S and the FH&S and when we ingest and digest them, we’ll come up strong in love and faith, ready to empower all our loved ones within the Eden He has put us in.

As sons, brothers, husbands, fathers, granddads, great granddads, uncles, team players and work colleagues, we ARE fully loaded by our father, to empower those around us.

Em, is like en and dynamically refers to putting on or in.  So, encourage, enthusiasm, enable, empathise, empower.   We can and must, put on and put into our love ones, what the Father has given us and what our loved ones need from their fathers, husbands etc…

The primary way this is achieved is by engaging with them and speaking life enhancing and confidence empowering words, about who they are, what they have been given and can do.

Please make sure these words are true and so avoid building a princess and prince syndrome in our children.

Engage with their lives, help them navigate what’s in their hearts and empower them to release ‘it’ with words of truth and love.

It will take guts and courage but remember, if I help create a vacuum, it will be filled and the father of lies, is more than willing to fill that vacuum with his words!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Resources.

“Abilities available when demands are made!”

This is the core dynamic of this blog thought about resources. Merriam Webster and the Cambridge Dictionaries have these entries about resources:

a source of supply or support: an available means —usually used in plural (MW) a usefulor valuable possession or quality of a countryorganization, or person (TCD)

The masculine soul by design, has valuable resources that the Father desires are used to serve and nurture all that He deems beautiful and to use these resources in a sacrificial manner.

The source of these resources are common grace; abilities and resources the Father gave to each masculine heart and soul He created and formed and ‘Covenant Grace’ which He gave and continues to give to all returning and reunited sons!  At the common grace level, we are by nature limited but at a covenant grace level we have access to unlimited love (see Paul’s struggle to describe His love in Eph 3:18&19) and unrivalled or surpassing power (see Eph 1:19)

When demands are made on our masculine heart and soul, we are expected to step up to the plate, if the expectation behind the demand is an appropriate one.  Some expectations made of us as men from those within our world are not appropriate; in fact, they are contrary to design!

An often-heard phrase to men’s’ worlds is this – Why don’t you grow up?!

Many times, this question is legitimate because the male is acting and behaving like a boy, and at this moment in the relationship a man is needed.  However, we are never meant to grow out of our sense of wonder, exploration, adventure and this may come as a surprise, our mischievousness. Why don’t you grow up is sometimes a reaction to these moments and should be resisted!

The buzz word for all these demand making times is responsibility!   Often the definition of a word gives me the dynamic that’s being called for, and responsibility is dynamically about my/our ability to respond. The demand is looking to and calling for much-needed supply.”

“Potential is determined by the demands place about it by its creator.”  Myles Munroe

All designed and manufactured products have inbuilt capacity, max stress levels and gross ladened weights and as a product of the mind and heart of my ‘first Father,’ so do I.   Accepting this truth is the beginning of being able; to be able to respond with our grace given abilities.  The core muscle that needs to be developed, again through meditation, is a core characteristic of the Father’s heart and mind, namely that He is just!

“The justness of Father is a daily plank exercise!”

I have learnt and am daily applying, especially in those ‘demanding make moments,’ to remember His justness and that the Father is making a legitimate demand on the resources and abilities He has given me through both aspects of grace.

This is not unfair but a moment to release and realise my potential!

The other muscle to develop alongside this is discernment which is a much-needed ability because has I said earlier not all demands of us are legitimate, that is, not from Him.

Our resources and abilities as men are very much-needed today and I believe the Father desires to train and develop our masculine hearts and souls accordingly, by reminding us of all we are in Him.  All we’ve been given in Christ, and all we can do motivated by His love and through His surpassing power!

Let’s us get ready in heart and mind for new training opportunities and stay disciplined in our ‘gym time’ of daily meditation on and in His word.