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Masculinity P4 

Navigate, Engage, Empower and now finally, the fourth ability of the MH&S – Sacrifice.

Although last in sense of these blogs, this dynamic is at the heart of what it means to be a man made in Father’s image.  At its core, Biblical masculinity reveals a Father who sends His Only Son and a Son who lays down His life, to accomplish His Father’s greatest desire: that His estranged sons and daughters would come home.

Sacrifice has two key components to it – value and cost.

Cost is what the one making the sacrifice is prepared to pay because of the value they see in the one they are sacrificing for or toward.

God so loved, He gave…. Jn 3:16

For the joy set before Him, He endure the cross. Cf Hebs 2:10 & 12:2

What we value, we sacrifice for.  Therefore, we can locate what we value by following the trail of our sacrifice.  Biblical masculinity understands the need to value and to sacrifice and how these interact with it other, and the benefits sacrifice can and does release.

So how does sacrifice fit in with the other abilities of the MH&S? It costs you to walk the terrain and produce the map.  To engage you have to disengage first! This too, is the language of sacrifice.  So where does empowerment fit into these?

The law of combination states that when two elements are combined they release a compound, that is energy.  As we as men, take our navigation experiences and combine them with engaging with those we love and value, power is released.

We put something on or in, those we value.

Sacrifice like maturity, is in the minority.

There’s far too much selfishness around.  In fact, there is a dangerous cocktail within society today: boys in men’s bodies in relationship with girls with too much princess syndrome.   The combinational out working of these is often not pretty!

Time and money are real treasures and Jesus said where our treasures are so too is our hearts!   Evaluating what we spend our time and money on, will reveal what we truly value and therein love.

Maybe this evaluation will lead to a life transforming revelation: the need to re-distribute and reallocate our ability to sacrifice.  To give more time and spend less elsewhere or to spend less money and to sacrificially invest more into those things that move Father’s heart – Ps 68:5&6

  • A father to the fatherless
  • A defender of widows
  • Setting the lonely in families
  • Leading prisoners out with singing

 

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Unconscious Incompetence!

Father is a ‘filler!’

A re-read of Genesis 1&2 reveals that He fills all He creates – the sea, land, plants, us!

I love the phrase describing the sea – it was teeming with life.

Father is draw to emptiness.  He desires to bring His life to empty spaces.

There is a space that He particularly desires to fill that is often overlooked and misunderstood: unconscious incompetence.

This can be defined as not being aware that I don’t know what I need to know!

Father is clear about a lack of knowledge – it’s a dangerous place.

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Hos 4:6  NKJV

 

When I become aware that I don’t know, what I need to know, this can become  a sacred place. Father invites us into this space and holds His breathe to see if we will RSVP and enter?

As men, when we lack info, knowledge, experience, skill, we have a number of choices – blag it, ignore it  or humble ourselves and ask for help.

I don’t know, what I don’t know, is a core obstacle to learning, development & transformation.

All great teachers are aware of the space that learners have to enter and remain in until they’ve received the info, experience, knowledge or skill they need.

Blaggers hate this space and time but learners positively love it.

Learning lies at the heart of Christianity because Jesus defined everyone who followed Him as a disciple.  Disciple means ‘disciplined learner’  and we have this label until we see Him face to face.

I am therefore a lifelong learner!

Right at the front end of His earthly ministry, the Father took His Son into a sacred space for a specific reason.

The Holy Spirit led Jesus into a stark, dangerous and potentially deadly place. See Luke 4:1.  Jesus was tested and His humanity was put under great pressure.  What He’d been acquiring for around 30yrs, (see Lk 2:52) He now began to apply.

The contrast between how He went into this sacred space and how He came out is remarkable.

He went in full of the Holy Spirit (Luke 4:1) and came out in the power of the Spirit (v 14).

This was a test and He passed it with flying colours!

The verses in the Bible that give me the most trouble are the ones I understand!   Take this one –

He decided from the outset to shape the lives of those who love him along the same lines as the life of his Son. The Son stands first in the line of humanity he restored. We see the original and intended shape of our lives there in him. Roms 8:29 The Message.

“Along the same lines as the Son!”

The Holy Spirit wants to lead me into a thought through place, so I can apply what He’s be teaching me, realise and release the potential He has given me and have new experiences to learn from!

If we RSVP to the Spirit’s leading, we can be sure that we will enter the sacred space one way and come out completely different.

We will return with new power; His super on our natural and with renewed confidence and increased enthusiasm.

Let’s face it, He created us men to take stuff on and with His power win some battles.

Father desires to empower us so we become acquirers of knowledge, understanding and wisdom.

“Wisdom is supreme, therefore get wisdom. Though it cost you all you have get understanding.  Prov 4:7

There is a cost and a price attached to learning which is more than monetary.

We have to admit, enter the space and find what we lack.

Humility is the prerequisite to learning and Father always gives grace to the humble. 1 Pet 5:5

He does not intend to leave us as mere acquirers.  He wants to take us into that sacred space so we can apply what He’s been showing us, mature and mark that place with His grace!

It will cost us but sacrifice lies at the heart of biblical masculinity.

I am learning to love those times when He leads me to this unconscious incompetence space.  I know that this is a sacred space and a divine appointment and I will become aware of what I don’t know or what I’ve been given but am not using!

At these times, Father is setting me up for a new revelation, insight or experience that will empower me to transform and to move up, move out or move into!

 

 

borders!

Borders are a vital dynamic to grasp because the Father who designed and created the masculine heart and soul, will consistently bring us men, His sons, to many border times and crossing over opportunities.